20 Ways for Young Men to Become Real Men

“There is need for a crusade of manliness and purity to counteract and nullify the savage work of those who think man is a beast. And that crusade is your work.” – St. Josemaría Escrivá

  1. Tell cool, funny jokes, not the kind that would make a pure woman blush – or be offended!
  2. Find saints that you relate to and ask them to pray for you as you imitate their virtues. Some awesome real men include St. Joseph, St. Augustine, St. Maximilian Kolbe, Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, and St. Josemaría Escrivá.
  3. Keep your standards high; only date women who have the qualities you want in a future wife and mother of your children. Pray for your bride, that she will have the love and strength to save the gift of sexual intimacy for you, and pray that you’ll have that strength too!
  4. Read the Bible – be open to God’s Word. Let it convict you to courageously do the hard and holy things.
  5. Respect women, even those who don’t respect themselves and may throw themselves at you. Don’t take advantage of them but help them to know their true worth. These women have a hole in their heart that they are looking to fill – point them to the only One who can fill it, Jesus Christ.
  6. Be a man of integrity. Do everything as if someone were watching, because God is watching. Prepare now to someday lead a family. Work hard to prepare yourself to provide for and protect them, not only financially and physically, but also spiritually, morally, and emotionally.
  7. Be both strong and gentle. St. Francis de Sales said that “there is nothing so strong as gentleness and nothing so gentle as real strength.” And wrap your brain around this quote by contemporary Catholic psychotherapist Philip Mango: “What’s a real man? He’s not a bully or a wimp. He transcends his own ego, his own fears, his own selfishness, and sacrifices himself as a gift to those he’s called to protect.”
  8. Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for the sake of the woman). Pope John Paul II said, “[God] has assigned as a duty to every man the dignity of every woman.”
  9. Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for your purity’s sake). Use this moment, when Satan wants to pull you away from Jesus, to draw closer than ever to God.
  10. Honor your mom and sisters. A smart woman knows that the way you treat your mother is the way you will someday treat her.
  11. Find creative ways to express your (pure & chaste) feelings to the woman you like or are dating. Show her that you can love her without using her and that she is beautiful both inside and out.
  12. Find good male role models to emulate; get relationship advice from Godly men.
  13. Be open to the priesthood.
  14. Show gentlemanly respect to all women, not just the woman you’re dating. What does it mean if you hold the door for your girlfriend but let it close in the face of the woman walking in right behind her?
  15. Trust in God’s mercy. When you fall, go to confession. Receive strength from Christ truly present in the Eucharist. Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati said, “With all the strength of my soul I urge you young people to approach the Communion table as often as you can. Feed on this bread of angels whence you will draw all the energy you need to fight inner battles. Because true happiness, dear friends, does not consist in the pleasures of the world or in earthly things, but in peace of conscience, which we have only if we are pure in heart and mind.”
  16. Don’t settle for counterfeits such as pornography or masturbation (in fact, avoid them like the plagues they are) if you want to someday enjoy the utterly amazing gift of sex as God intended.
  17. Guard your senses from temptation, and be always ready to choose God’s way, no matter what the cost. The mind is a dangerous battlefield, so “Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worth of praise, think about these things” (Phil. 4:8).
  18. Recognize Mary as your Mother and say a prayer to consecrate your heart to her. Her prayers for you will be very powerful in helping you draw near to her Son.
  19. Lay down your life in the little things; practice making small sacrifices by putting someone else’s wants or needs before your own.
  20. Make Jesus Christ your best friend and greatest role model. J.R.R. Tolkien, in a letter to his son, wrote, “Out of the darkness of my life, so much frustrated, I put before you the one great thing to love on earth: the Blessed Sacrament… There you will find romance, glory, honor, fidelity, and the true way of all your loves upon the earth… which every man’s heart desires.”

These 20 suggestions were written by the Christian Life Men’s Group of Dayton, Ohio.




Everyday, people are hoping for something new to arrive.

“I hope I can go to the beach tomorrow!” “I hope that this test is easy!” “I hope that I can get that game!”

But, how many times do we actually hope for others? How many times are we the hope for others?

The world itself is a battlefield for the souls of all the youth. We, the youth, are not just the future of the Church, we ARE the Church. If Satan knows where he can strike the Church the hardest, it would be right in the youth. The youth these days seem to have no hope. They live lives of drugs, sex, and darkness. They proclaim the phrase “YOLO,” or “You Only Live Once,” as their life’s motto. Don’t they have hope for eternal life? By the way we see things going, they might not.

We need to be the hope, the light, for those walking the path of the darkness. We need to be strong for not only the current generation, but for the the upcoming generations as well. We need to build up the Church with a strong army of Catholic youth ready to fight against the enemy. We need to be a Generation of hope. Hope that the Church is still strong. Hope that God can and will work through us, the youth.

I always hear from people: “I can’t be religious and stuff, I’m too much of an outcast.” Well, Catholic Fun Fact #1 my friend, God turns outcasts into people who shine hope. And don’t tell me you’re too young either. God used Timothy and other young people to spread his message of hope! So do not despair my friends, God is hope! Pray that through God, we can ignite a fire of hope within the Church so that more young people can turn to it to find the Light of Christ.

So here’s my challenge, try to be a message of hope to somebody in despair this week. Show them that Jesus is the Light and hope they crave and seek. God never said it was going to be easy: He only said it was totally going to be worth it.

I’ll leave you with this passage from Romans 15:13:

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in your faith, so that in the power of the Holy Spirit you may be rich in hope.”

Get Holy or Die Trying. God Bless!

Shine On!


Hey there everybody and welcome to my new blog: Catholic Light!

Obviously I have no clever or witty way to introduce this blog or myself so I’ll just say this: I’m 17. I’m Catholic. I want to change the world.

I like to inspire others so that’s what I’m going to to (hopefully through this blog too): inspire people. But more specifically, inspire the youth. I want to help ignite a passion for Christ within the hearts of the young people.

There are so many people walking the path of darkness, especially young people. They’re suffering. They’re hurting. They’re crying out for help. We’re called to reach out to them and help. We are called to be the light in darkness.

We are the light of the world, so shine on my friends!

Get Holy or Die Trying. God Bless!